We all know what love is and we all have felt or are still in love, but you need to ask yourself, if you are in love or you are just merely being foolish.
While love is beautiful, a totality of true emotions, pure and all, it can also fool a person into doing a lot of things, including staying in a relationship that isn’t working for them.
Love is said to be a sacrifice, as much as I agree with it, I strongly believe that the sacrifice isn’t meant to be a one sided action.
Many people today are dying down the line just to satisfy their spouse, while he isn’t even making an effort to put a smile on their face.
When true love comes to play, its healthy, it doesn’t tear you up inside, it keeps you fulfilled and happy without getting lost or anxious about the relationship lasting.
When you begin to realize you are putting too much in and getting nothing in return then you need to have a rethink.
We need to know when to draw the line.
- True love is selfless, so the moment you realize your spouse only thinks of himself at all times, then there’s a problem
- True love is honest, you should have an open relationship, if your spouse is one that constantly lies to you, that relationship would live in darkness and would offer no enlightenment.
- True love is kind, its generous and compassionate, you deserve to be loved and cared for not to always be in pain and treated badly.
- True love is respectful; it respects your opinions, your decisions and even your ambitions. It will also honor you as a person. Love doesn’t have to be arrogant, and doesn’t have to be rude. The moment you feel inferior and not worthy of any consideration, you are not in a loving relationship.
In retrospect, look at the type of relationship you are in, does he make you cry, does he make you feel lonely, does he make you feel insecure, does he hurt you physically, does he hurt you sexually, does he abuse you emotionally, does he make you feel like a piece of property, does he make you want to end your life? These are questions you need to ask yourself.
If you are in such a relationship and you keep thinking you are in love, please think again.
We are women and we have the same rights as men to feel good, to be loved and respected, to be pampered and cherished and to be treated like a Queen.
It’s your right and you deserve a man who would make you feel like a real woman and support you every way he can. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that you can’t get a better man than what you have. He’s out there. Your happiness is that matters. Take it.
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