You are most likely reading this, because you feel like all that you have been so far is more than whom you are, or should be at work, at home, or at that pitch.
Well, it is no fault of yours that you have become a powerhouse, or fixing things is your forte. It is not strange that things work faster around you than it works around others.
You have a psychological trait that makes you feel like an imposter of yourself. A term first coined by DR. Pauline R. Clance and DR. Suzanne A. Imes in 1978 and has since come to define the identity struggles of so many young women because they feel too good to be real.
Both researchers concluded that people with these elements get to experience depression, anxiety and have a higher chance of low self-esteem because even when they can do it, they write themselves off after a great feat has been achieved.
However, here are some pointers on how you can manage imposter syndrome and be a lot more comfortable in your skin:
- BE FACTUAL:
It is important to note that as you go and grow, you have to own up to data about your achievement. To do this, you could keep a diary. Keep a record of your big and small wins, the challenges you experienced and how you overcame them. It will help you realize that feeling stupid on the down days does not define who you are and that makes it easier to snap back on your feet.
- CREATE A RESPONSE MEDIUM TO FAILURE:
When you get a hold of how you deal with failing, then it becomes logical for you to learn to start over and fast when you hit a setback on a project. Failing does not give you an avenue to sulk in and weep over spilled milk, give it an evaluation, learn, and quickly move on to make the best of the situation.
- GET VISUAL ABOUT SUCCESS STORIES:
We bet you’ve practiced a winning or award speech in from a mirror before. You know, that moment of using a lotion bottle as a microphone and giving an imaginary heartfelt speech. Practice it more often because that will be your reality soon. Visualize your higher self and start showing up as her.
- REWARD YOURSELF:
It is one thing to be successful, it is another to accept your success. To deal with any element of imposter syndrome, give yourself some credit for the things you have done right. The little wins help you build-up a threshold for bigger things to come. Try hard to embrace self-validation, while reducing the outer validation pressure that you take in.
- BE DELIBERATE ABOUT LIVING:
When you begin to grow, it is very important to get very deliberate about living, as that is one way to be sure about your decisions. Rather than holding onto the idea of faking your reality until you make it, you can begin to study the lives of mentors and figures that you look up to, and then deliberately emulate these factors.
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